Ella and Pup....
My older two kids never had a security object, other than MY hair!
When we returned home from China with our Ella, my Mom had bought her a stuffed dog and left it in her crib. When I first saw it, I thought...that's cute, but like most stuffed animals, it will shortly end up in a pile in the corner of the bedroom. Hmmmm-not the case!
The stuffed animal stayed in the crib while Ella slept for her naps and at nighttime. Then a few months later, when Ella was about 18 or 20 months of age, the stuffed animal was named, Pup. Pup then became an attachment object for Ella while she worked so hard herself to learn to attach to her new Mommy and Daddy. Oh, how she loved her Pup. He got kisses and hugs long before we did. He went everywhere with us. But you see...Pup was more than just a security object-he was a real living being to Ella and still is 2 years later! You will see him in the background of many of our pictures. It was hard for me to narrow down which photos to use for this post. You will see how much better shape Pup was in when Ella was younger as opposed to now.
Pup goes most places with us. He even traveled to China with us when we brought Sophie home. He is not just an object that she holds close for comfort. He has feelings and Ella doesn't just plop him places. He takes turns in our games, goes down the slide, gets covered with blankets, etc. He is very real to Ella. She talks to him and comforts him and always tells him how much she loves him. The trauma therapist that we have seen in the past, believes that in Ella's eyes...Pup is a little Ella. She feels that Pup has been monumental in helping Ella heal from some of her past hurts.
Now, Ella goes to a little preschool class on Thursdays called "Moms Morning Out". Sometimes she wants Pup to go to school with her and since preschools don't allow objects from home to go with the kids...I compromise with her and tell her Pup can go to school, but he has to stay in the backpack. She is fine with that.
Ella's preschool seems to have issues with the smoke alarms as her class has already had two fire evacuations with bells sounding and evacuating and firemen and all. The first one did not seem to bother her-which amazed me. However, they had one last week and it terrified her. She keeps saying I was scared and the firebells were so loud(she does not handle loud noises well). She told me she was not going to school today because of this. I didn't make her and was sure the loud fire bells were the reason, but....
Last night I was putting her to bed and she started hugging Pup and crying one of those really deep emotional types of sobbing cries. She said "Mommy there was fire and Pup was in my backpack and couldn't get out. I needed to get him, Mommy so he would be safe, but I couldn't get him. I had to leave him in the fire. He needed me to make him safe and I couldn't get him."
Oh, how my heart broke for her! No wonder why she has been so upset about this. She had to leave her Pup in what she thought was a fire and thought he was getting hurt and she wouldn't see him again.
Bless her sweet, innocent heart!!
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Ella and Pup....