Friday, November 7, 2008

Teenagers

This is a little story about my day yesterday...for the moms of teens who will relate and for the moms of little ones to remind them to enjoy your kids while they are young and before they turn into a teenager! Now of course I love my teens more than life itself, but this is a hard age!


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I worked late the night before and when I woke up yesterday, Chelsea asks me if I had seen Ryan's hand? I have no idea what she is talking about and then she explains that he hurt it playing football. Uh, no. No one said a word to me. Ryan was already in school at this point. So, I call Dave and he says, "oh, yeah...I forgot to tell you". I ask him if it was bad enough that he should see a doc and he says...probably. Do you know the feeling of how things just never get done the right way while you are away? Now,I know it would be hard to assess it AND get a doctors appointment after he got home from school. Sooo, I call the school nurse and tried to explain the story. A bit embarrasing. I ask her if she would call him down to her office and look at it for me and give me her opinion. So, she did and calls me back to tell me that indeed it needed medical attention and x-rays.

So, now my boy is not so happy with me. I have him pulled out of class and sent to the nurse and now I am coming to pick him up early. He calls me when I am almost there...telling me he is fine and the nurse does not know what she is talking about and he does not need to see a doctor! I tell him he is going and I will see him in a minute.

Now, I am waiting in the car for him and holding my breath, waiting for his arguing to hit when he gets in the car....the girls in the backseat with their wide eyes taking this all in. The car door slams and then the mouth starts going. "This is ridiculous. I asked lots of people and they said it is probably not broken. It is my pinkie and it is no big deal. Who told you about this? This is a waste of my time. I am missing math class." And on and on and on. Now, I realize that compared to the broken neck he had in the spring, this may not be a huge deal, but still. I tried to explain to him that I would prefer to get it assessed by medical professionals over his friends and grandmother. I explained I was on my way out the door to my exercise class I have not been to in weeks and had to drop that to take him to the doctor. But teens do not look outside of themselves often, so none of that made a difference.

I am upset at this point and Sophie starts asking Ella what is the matter with Mommy. Ella whispers in the sweetest little voice, "Ryan is not being so nice right now. Be very quiet Sophie....they are both crabby now." How cute is that?

So, at this point I am a little fearful about his "I told you so"s if it was not broken. lol! As soon as the doc saw it, she sent him for x-rays. As it turns out, the x-rays not only showed several fractures, but the breaks were such that he needed to go immediately to an orthopedist specialist with probable surgery. O.K., I am the adult, so no "I told you so"'s from me. But I was thinking them! ha!

So, now he has a removable cast and it is wrapped almost to his elbow. We have to go back each week for x-rays so they can assess if it will need surgery or if it will heal on it's own. Teens! Gotta love em!

Hope you all have a wonderful week-end with your little ones and your teens! : )


Blessings,

 

50 comments:

Colleen said...

Mom's always know best!!!!!:) And what a great Mom you are!!
Hope his hand heals quickly.....ouch! Can't believe it wasn't bothering him. The stubbornness of teenagers I guess. I know he appreciates you more than he will admit to.
The girls are too cute!!!!
I hope you get to your work out!!!! Have a great week-end!

Missy said...

Oh my!!! "I told you so's" are never fun to hear, but sure are fun to say ... hee hee!

I'm glad you listened to your mommy instinct and took him to the dr. I'm sorry he might have to go through all of this.

Hey, did you ever make it to your exercise class? ; ) Have a great weekend!

Sherri said...

Yay for you! I love it when it works out that I'm right!!!!!

I know my high schoolers would rather go to school sick, or with broken bones, than to miss a day of school. There's so much to make up when they miss.....maybe he was being responsible and that's the reason for the attitude. Do you think maybe that could have been it? haha

I hope he heard Ella tell Sophie that he was not being nice to you right then. I'm sure he wants to be a good role model in their eyes.

This one is going to give you all your gray hair, isn't he? :) I have one of those, as you know.

sherri

Mom To Six said...

Oh, Michelle...the only thing I could say is that by the time they're 30, they will hopefully snap out of it. :)

Amanda is 14 and she knows it ALL. ::sigh::

Glad to hear that you did take him to the doctor and he's getting it taken care of.

Hugs,

Ohilda

Monica said...

Know where you are coming from...just now starting to get there, myself! (My 13 year old can get so exasperated with me!) Your son is lucky that you plowed through all his objections and got him the medical attention he needed!!!

mommy24treasures said...

oh Michelle I certainly can understand....Teens are very no fun at times because of their self thinking. Most of us that have teens have had very similar moments if we would admit it. big hugs to you today...
Hope he does not end up needing theh surgery./

Michelle said...

Hi Michelle,
You get an A++ for following your instinct. I thought boys were supposed to have the easy teen years. lol I am hoping Kara has a few years before she enters full on "I know it all" mode.

I hope Ryan heals and doesn't need surgery. And broken neck? I don't think I knew about that one. Yikes!

Have a great weekend!
Michelle

a Tonggu Momma said...

Wait... you mean I DIDN'T know it all as a teenager? :)

Lisa said...

I so understand your pain. I have two hard head teen age boys. I just keep hoping that they will outgrow it. I keep asking my 14 yr old where my sweet boy went. The 17 yr old thinks the world should revolve around him right now and what he wants to do. We have recently had to have a reality check. Taking the keys away makes them drop to their knees. Funny how it can change the old attitude.
I hope his hand heals without surgery.

Cecelia said...

Oh, MY! I could probably guess what you'd like me to pray for this week, but email me & let me know for sure. You're my Guest of the Week again! I've already mailed off your gift card. Hmmmmm. Now you can break bread with me & someone else, if you're so inclined. Love you!

Kristin said...

Don't you just love those "mom is right" moments! I treasure them. :-)

I hope Ryan's hand heals quickly on its own so he can avoid surgery.

I have to say also that I am impressed he wanted to stay in math class and not go to the doctor. I think my son would have voluntarily left class and put up the appointment just to miss school!!

Laura L. said...

Wow, that sounds like a REALLY broken finger. I'm so glad you insisted on taking him to the Dr.

My, they do know an awful lot at this age don't they? Lol

Some day, you can remind him of the time that you were right about this issue. Some day you'll both look back and laugh. Some day...
:)

JShannon said...

I cant remember saying the "I told you so's" and the "Because I'm the mom" and the "Because I know better then you do" as much as I do now that Megan is living here. My boys were not 1/2 as hard as her ! And we just started over, lol.

The Princess's Mommy said...

OK, this is going to make you feel better. Several months ago, Landon came home with a very bruised and swollen hand. It seems that he had been "boxing" (read: fighting!) at his friends house and hurt his hand. Well, I was furious! I refused to take him to the doctor. He did complain of it hurting, but being the excellent nurse that I am, I told him he would be fine and it served him right anyway because we do not fight!

So fast forward to a couple of months ago. He was at the dr for another issue and he mentioned to him that his hand was really sore. Our dr. took one look at it and freaked out! He was on the phone to the orthopedist and got us an appt within the hour. Well, we go to the orthopedist, he takes one look at the x-ray and says "this is an old break. Nothing I can do about it now without doing surgery. It won't cause him any problems but he will always have a crooked pinky finger and probably some arthritis as he ages." Great....

When he asked why he hadn't come in sooner, I told him that I wanted to teach him a lesson about fighting. He said "Mission Accomplished".

I probably won't be winning the nurse/mom of the year award, ya think??? ;-)

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

Mom's always know!!!

Good thing your intuition kicked in and you went....he had to be in excruciating pain!

Hopefully now that it is immobilized(sp?) he will be on the road to recovery!!

Love what Ella said....that is too darn cute!

Talk to you later!

Lisa

my3 kids said...

Oh Michelle can I relate. I am dealing with "teen" issues and having a hard time with all the changes in my sweet boy. I know that for them it is hard but I miss my sweet, huggable, caring little boy. Right now he has pulled away and it makes my heart ache. I hope and pray it will get easier and that we taught him well because the world is so full of scary stuff and it freaks me out. Kyle wants to be cool and what do parents know at this point? I just keep loving him and being there for him and hope he will make good choices etc. Anyway sorry for venting on you...Your a great mom and I am glad you followed your heart and made him see a Dr. Have a wonderful weekend (it is snowing here for the first time tonight and the girls are super excited...me not so much!) Love Jan

OH MY #6 said...

Oh my, i wonder if we where that way?!! LOL!

lea
xo

Dori's Mommy (Diana) said...

Oh my goodness! While we haven't had broken bones, we've encountered a few of these type of conversations.

I think I need to add a shadow to your sidebar tags to make them pop a little!

Dori's Mommy (Diana) said...

The shadows are subtle, but look good!

Isabella's Mommy and Daddy said...

Oh I can sooo relate...Teens are sooo fun.. and boys at that..
Glad you got him to the dr. and found out that it really was a BIG DEAL..
Have a Great Weekend..
Got to love it when we are at work..
Hugs girly..
Love ya..

Anonymous said...

Dear Michelle,


Hi! I just read your blog! I am so sorry about poor Ryan's finger! You are such a good Mom to pull him out of class and get him to the Doctor a.s.a.p.! You are so amazing! I love you! I will pray for Ryan to communicate love right back to your heart, so that you can feel it!


I love you forever!


Love,


Maria XO

Tamara said...

Yep- another Mom of a teen here! They know it ALL!!!!
The girls are beautiful in their Halloween costumes-

Good job on holding back on the 'I told you so" Moms shouldn't say it- but once in a while would be nice.

Sheri said...

Oh the joy of teenagers. It's so nice to hear about others' teens so that you know that your own teens are "normal." I'm not glad that Ryan has the fractures in his hand, but for your sake it's nice that you were right. I just love how Sophie reacted -- out of the mouths of babes!! I hope you have a great weekend.

Jill said...

Mom knows best! When will these kids learn? LOL! Good luck on the hand!

redmaryjanes said...

I so understand! My 16 year old is this way too. It is so frustrating sometimes. He thinks he's an adult and he just isn't yet.

Waiting for Mia Hope! said...

Oh my goodness! Mother knows best! heehee Ella is too funny!

Doug and Terrye said...

Bless your heart! I'm so sorry you were "right," but I'm so glad you were "right!"

Terrye in FL

Nikki said...

Yeah, I am SO not looking forward to the teenage years!
Way to be strong, mom!

Shawnstribe said...

i tell you they have attitude!!!!
mind you so do our little ones ; )
i findyou just have to stick your chest out and be brave, they soon deflate theirs, mommy power i think : )
Hugs though, its scary having to be brave
xxx
s

The Byrd's Nest said...

Oh Michelle, I am so sorry for all of that. I don't know why they are built that way but they are! I love the conversation from the backseat!

Mr.Brian said...

Love the girls comments.Oh how smart kids can be.
Hope all turns out well for your son.
As always mom's do know.
And just for fun walk past him tomorrow and say .....Told ya.

Anonymous said...

Michelle,
Good for you doing what you thought was best. Thanks for the reminder to enjoy them while they are young! They both still think that Mom knows best right now, I guess that does not last long.
I am praying for you and Ryan.

Love,
Tammy

jennifer said...

I am so glad you were right! Not so much that it was broken, but you definitely shut him up!!

Not looking forward to those days, but I can see them coming!

Retta said...

I'm impressed that he was upset at missing math class. When I was in high school, I would have been begging my mom to get me out of math class!!! :)

Sharon said...

Sorry and don't dare tell that 15 yr old of yours but i am so glad it ended up as an i told you on the mom side hahahahha. He is such a trooper though. I would have been complaining and trying to get out of school when I was that age. I am so gald i came over here in time to read that. And i loved loved loved the new flooring story! Thank you!! You made my humdrum sat so much better!!!

Jennifer said...

MOTHER'S do know best!!! We always have to listen to our gut instinct!

The girls are no funny whispering in the back seat!

Jen

Oatsvall Team said...

ok, i loved this ... i have coached teenagers for many years and as i was reading your story i got about a million flashes of my girls trying to tell me they know better than I do ... since they weren't my children i did say "I TOLD YA SO" a few times ...

Hannah said...

I stumbled on your blog today and just loved it. You have a beautiful family and blog!!

Hannah

My Heart Beats In China said...

Hi Michelle,
Popping over from Daleea's blog to say hello.
Your family is georgeous! Will stop by for a more thorough reading of your posts.

come on by and say hello.

Hugs from NJ

Ivy

Steffie B. said...

Oh can soooooo relate to this post....you go Momma.....you done good! lol ;)

Tiffany said...

Way to go mom!!!! Mom's always know and always know best....

Paula said...

Yes, I can totally relate. I have a teenager too. you are so right that they are into themselves and think they are the center of the universe. But we love them all the same and we were most likely like that when we were that age. Glad you got it checked. Its a mom thing, you just know when somethings not right. But if I were him I'd be thanking you for missing math class :)

Kowalczyk said...

Hang in there sailor! Praying for our boys to be good men some day! Love Nancy

Keisha said...

Michelle,
Sounds like you handled things very well!
~blessings,
Keisha

The Princess's Mommy said...

Hey!
Thank you for thinking of us! We saw him on the 'puter last night and he looks great!! Only 5 weeks till he's home for Christmas! Do you think it's too soon to put the count-down ticker back on my blog?? LOL

Have a wonderful day!
Love you too,
~M

My Heart Beats In China said...

Glad you stopped by. Always glad to meet another Hunan Mommy. Yes, my little one is also spicy! Going thru the tempermental 2's a bit early as well. Guess I should stock up on bath salts now! Right, as if I have the time to soak in a tub!

Look forward to more postings!

Ivy

Jeff and Amy said...

Oh my, all sounds way too familair!!!! LOL My oldest is 20 and it has gotten just a little better with him. LOL

AZMom said...

I guess they never learn to listen to MAMA! LOL I hope it all heals up okay and that the surgery goes well.

I love your new blog look!

3 Peanuts said...

I too am glad you followed your instincts. i dread those teen years!

Kim

Jewels of My Heart said...

Ohhhhhhhhhhhh My....
First may I just say that the conversation between Sophie and Ella was just precious and made me giggle!
I am sorry his finger is soooooo bad..... but, I am glad that his oh, so wise Mom was looking out for him and that there was a life lesson involved for him as well...heheeee
LISTEN TO YOUR MOM!

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